one ring to rule them both...

wedding rings

Today as I was browsing images of wedding rings, i stumbled upon one picture that shows striking similarity to the ring in the LOTR movie. As usual wedding rings have the name of the spouse engraved on the insides. They have the same font.

Which gets me thinking... Did JRR Tolkien get his inspiration from wedding rings? Talking about ring that binds its bearer... Correct me if I'm wrong, but work of fiction depicts married man/woman as taking off their wedding ring before they commit infidelities...

be a bigger man

If someone hurt you, forgive and let go. Be a bigger person than he/she is.

sometimes i dream about sleeping

Some days I am invincible, I am awfully positive about life. But today is not one of those days.

I am tired. I let go.

Maybe tomorrow I'll fight for you again.

clinging tendency

Increase the amount of exercise your dog gets daily. If you take your dog on three short walks a day, try adding a short run to it and taking him to a dog park a couple of times a week. An increase in exercise can help expel some of the nervous energy associated with clinginess. Exercising him before you leave can also make your absence less stressful.
-- How to Stop Your Dog From Being Clingy --

... something about yourself that you don't know. Something that you will deny even exists, until it's too late to do anything about it. It's the only reason you get up in the morning... We're approval junkies. We're all in it for the slap on the back... we're just monkeys wrapped in suits, begging for the approval of others.
-- Revolver --

In a relationship, whoever likes the other person more is prone of being clingy.

Clinging is not only found in relationships, though. We don't even cling exclusively to human being. We cling to social status, perceived safety, etc. All the things we think we cannot live without.

What is the cure for clinging, or addiction wearing a mask of insecurity? I believe it is to step out of our comfort zone. Start working our ass off. Stop taking easy paths to everything.

We will be liberated. And what a wonderful feeling it is to be free!


Today google told me, that for my whole life, I've been doing a mistake. ... That is, mispelling 'procrastinate'. I had been spelling it 'proscratinate' whole time.

first times -- part two --

gan guo

There are many things I did for the first time in the recent year, and not all of them is told here.

I bought two sets of pierre cardin's undie. I bathed at two chinese-speaking cities. I ate gan guo (literal: dry pot). I watched Madura island from the air above.

I sold clothes via bbm. I tried disciplining a subordinate and failed.

First time in my life, only done in the recent year, if you know what I mean.

I'd like to mention that selling clothes via bbm requires A LOT of hardware requirements. Don't do it if you're lack of patience, either. It felt like having press caught a public figure after a night at the club. People are like paparazzi, they ask questions and won't let go.

There are many things I did for the first time in the recent year, and not all of them is good.

happiness is...

My cousin's wife likes to spend her money (which is a lot) on clothes. Whenever she's bored with a piece of clothing, she gives it to me. Sometimes it fits my body. Sometimes it doesn't. I bring those that don't fit to a tailor to have them mended.

Sometimes happiness is not having new things. Sometimes happiness is making better of what you already have.

read arabic phonetically

I'm curious why google translate doesn't provide 'read phonetically' feature for Arabic language, whereas such feature exists for other non-alphabet languages (Chinese, Japanese, Russian). Anyone knows?

forsaking delphi

I have been thinking for awhile why many programmers in mainland China stopped coding in Delphi altogether. Tonight it dawned on me, could it be because Delphi's code completion (Ctrl+ Space) conflicts with Chinese keyboard?

what is your excuse now?

Rome wasn't built in a day, but Prambanan Temple was. :D


Assumption is the fastest way to self-ridicule... When will I learn?

Seeing Bruce Willis on the cast, I bought tickets to this movie because I wanted to be numb. Not thinking, not considering my options, not planning anything. Just stare at the screen blankly for awhile.

But this movie invoke thoughts. Between causality of time-travel events and murdering future criminal while they're still infants, the lightest one is this: what on earth is the name of the liquid drug that is taken by dropping it into one's eye? And I don't mean things like eyedrop solutions. The drug is the kind that can make you high.

love is in the eyes of the beholder

When you assume, you make an ass out of you and me.
-- Silence of The Lambs --

Assuming is a dangerous thing to do. Given everybody is unique, if there are four persons in a room, there can be 4 different political views. We all know that. Yet when it comes to love, we assume. When someone says that he/she loves us, we assume that we are the only one. We assume that the person tells the truth, will sacrifice for us, infatuated with us. We assume, assume, assume until truth hits us and brings us back to reality.

It is not always that the other person lies. We think love standard is the same for everyone. Bad news: it isn't. I know one guy who thinks that if he provides for his wife and children, then he has loved them enough, so he's free to do infidelities. As twisted as it may seem, many men thinks that way.

Another not-so-bizzare-but-not-less-strange example is this guy. He doesn't have a watch. He strongly believe that after he has a watch, he will get a girlfriend.

So let me end this post with a quote from Bob Marley: "You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect - you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there."

i am open to suggestions

I have spent several years trying to live this life and as far as I can understand, I live well, however, I am not sure if one part is lived the way it is supposed to be -

... On second thought, I am not open to suggestions.

how to be a man

This morning I read a comic book titled 'How to be a Man'. A 17 years old girl has a love interest who is 7 years younger than her. Eventually they dated each other.

The author said: "If I write a story with common theme, it will be too easy for the readers to guess where the story goes." He also said, "... I don't want you to become such person that read a book because everybody is reading that book, or watch a movie because everyone else has watched it..."

Okay, but the boy is an elementary school student, do you really need to write such a story?