love is in the eyes of the beholder

When you assume, you make an ass out of you and me.
-- Silence of The Lambs --

Assuming is a dangerous thing to do. Given everybody is unique, if there are four persons in a room, there can be 4 different political views. We all know that. Yet when it comes to love, we assume. When someone says that he/she loves us, we assume that we are the only one. We assume that the person tells the truth, will sacrifice for us, infatuated with us. We assume, assume, assume until truth hits us and brings us back to reality.

It is not always that the other person lies. We think love standard is the same for everyone. Bad news: it isn't. I know one guy who thinks that if he provides for his wife and children, then he has loved them enough, so he's free to do infidelities. As twisted as it may seem, many men thinks that way.

Another not-so-bizzare-but-not-less-strange example is this guy. He doesn't have a watch. He strongly believe that after he has a watch, he will get a girlfriend.

So let me end this post with a quote from Bob Marley: "You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect - you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there."